In the 1960s and 1970s many young unmarried women gave up their children for adoption by strangers. Many never even saw their babies, and the process was shrouded in secrecy. Activism by birth parents and adopted children led to a more open situation. In the early 2000s the number of New Zealand children available for adoption was small – most adoptions were of children from overseas, or related children.
Full story by Anne Else
Main image: Matron with babies, Wellington Bethany home, 1969
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Māori children were often brought up by relatives who were not their parents, a practice known as whāngai. Usually there was no secrecy, and the children knew their birth parents.
In the early colonial period, customary Māori adoptions were legally recognised – but from 1901 they had to be registered with the Native Land Court.
Adoption Act 1881
The Adoption Act 1881 meant that people who were willing to take in and bring up children could become their legal parents. At first there were few adoptions.
Growth in adoption
From the 1940s people thought unmarried mothers should give up their children for adoption, allowing them the chance of a ‘normal’ family life. In the 1950s there were not enough babies available for the people who wanted to adopt. But by the mid-1960s so many babies were given up for adoption that couples had plenty of choice. Newborn girls were most popular. Babies who were not Pākehā, or who had disabilities, were more difficult to place.
Adoption Act 1955
The Adoption Act 1955 was based on the idea that there should be a complete break between the birth and adoptive families. Many women whose children were adopted out never saw their babies at all, and very few knew who had adopted them.
The act brought Māori under the same rules as Pākehā – but this meant that the tribal background of adopted Māori children was rarely recorded.
Unmarried pregnant women were seen as bringing shame on themselves and their families. Many were sent away to homes for unmarried mothers. They would return home after they had given birth and the child had been adopted out.
Decline of adoption
From the 1960s more single mothers began keeping their babies. The Domestic Purposes Benefit (DPB) for sole parents was introduced in 1973, and single motherhood became less shameful. Contraception also became easier to get, and by the mid-1970s there were complaints about a ‘shortage’ of babies for adoption.
From secrecy to openness
Adult adopted children began campaigning for the right to know about their birth families, and some birth mothers wanted to know what had happened to the children they had given up for adoption. In 1985 the law changed so they could find out about one another.
Adoption in the early 2000s
In the early 2000s few children were adopted by strangers. Open adoption, where the birth and adoptive families meet each other, was encouraged, and most birth mothers could choose the family their child would go to.
Because so few children were available, there was interest in adopting children from overseas – including Romania and Russia.
Some people felt that the adoption law needed to change, as it did not pay enough attention to the rights of the child or the birth family, and de facto and same-sex couples were not allowed to adopt.